Don’t just go with the first coach you contact (even if it is me :-)). Try two or three. Coaches come from all backgrounds, life experiences and we are all different in style and approach.
Step 1
Come up with a list of potential coaches. Check out some of the great organisation and partners I’ve recommended below. Head over to the ICF website to find coaches in their registry. Ask people around you for recommendations
Step 2
Come up with your list of what you are looking for in a coach (see ideas below) to help you prepare questions for your potential coach. Remember – the most important criteria is that you connect at a personal level and trust quickly.
01.
How experienced a coach do you want (hours coaching, accredited, certified, etc.)? Coaches with more successful experience will typically charge a higher price, but this isn’t always a guarantee of success.
02.
What values/personal philosophies do you want to your coach to possess? What values/personal philosophies would prevent you from working with a coach?
03.
What kind of life/work experience do you want to see in your coach?
04.
What kind of business/industry knowledge/technical knowledge do you want your coach to possess?
05.
Can they easily understand your context and issues? Be careful with this one… more knowledge is not always better. The more specific technical knowledge a coach has in your field, the more likely they will be to act as a consultant and offer a lot of advice.
06.
How challenging do you want your coach to be? Some clients don’t want to be pushed too hard. Others want to be challenged, significantly.
07.
What methods does the coach use and will they be a good fit for you?
08.
Can you happily afford coaching from this coach? If you cringe at the thought of dollars chinking away each minute you’re on the phone with this coach, you probably won’t get the most out of your coaching!
09.
How similar/different is the coach from you in style/background? For a while, I was greatly helped by a coach who had a very similar to me – it’s what I needed at the time. However, the next time around, I purposefully chose a coach whose style was very different from mine.
10.
What are the ethical boundaries or guidelines you would want to discuss with a coach? How do ethics show up in their approach? What examples does the coach have of their ethical approach in action?
Step 3
Try them out with a free call. Make sure there is time for both introductions and a free coaching session. Some coaches don’t offer a free call, but I feel you should try before you buy. The relationship of trust is all too important.
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Pamela Ann Burkhalter
Coach and Facilitator
Julien Watkins
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Chris Lee
Coach and Facilitator
Ally Yates
Coach, Facilitator, and Author
Pierre-Laurent Verdon
Coach and Facilitator
Virginia Williams
Executive Coach (ICF PCC) & Mindfulness Mentor
Claudine Marchand
Coach and Facilitator
Isabelle Verdon
Coach and Facilitator
Pamela Ann Burkhalter
Coach and Facilitator
Julien Watkins
Health Coach
Chris Lee
Coach and Facilitator
Ally Yates
Coach, Facilitator, and Author
Pierre-Laurent Verdon
Coach and Facilitator
Virginia Williams
Executive Coach (ICF PCC) & Mindfulness Mentor
Claudine Marchand
Coach and Facilitator
Isabelle Verdon
Coach and Facilitator
Pamela Ann Burkhalter
Coach and Facilitator
Julien Watkins
Health Coach
Chris Lee
Coach and Facilitator
Ally Yates
Coach, Facilitator, and Author
Pierre-Laurent Verdon
Coach and Facilitator
Virginia Williams
Executive Coach (ICF PCC) & Mindfulness Mentor
Claudine Marchand
Coach and Facilitator
Isabelle Verdon
Coach and Facilitator
Pamela Ann Burkhalter
Coach and Facilitator
Julien Watkins
Health Coach
Chris Lee
Coach and Facilitator
Ally Yates
Coach, Facilitator, and Author
Pierre-Laurent Verdon
Coach and Facilitator
Virginia Williams
Executive Coach (ICF PCC) & Mindfulness Mentor
Claudine Marchand
Coach and Facilitator
Isabelle Verdon
Coach and Facilitator
Pamela Ann Burkhalter
Coach and Facilitator
Julien Watkins
Health Coach
Chris Lee
Coach and Facilitator
Ally Yates
Coach, Facilitator, and Author
Pierre-Laurent Verdon
Coach and Facilitator
Virginia Williams
Executive Coach (ICF PCC) & Mindfulness Mentor
Claudine Marchand
Coach and Facilitator
Isabelle Verdon
Coach and Facilitator
Pamela Ann Burkhalter
Coach and Facilitator
Julien Watkins
Health Coach
Chris Lee
Coach and Facilitator
Ally Yates
Coach, Facilitator, and Author
Pierre-Laurent Verdon
Coach and Facilitator
Virginia Williams
Executive Coach (ICF PCC) & Mindfulness Mentor
Claudine Marchand
Coach and Facilitator
Isabelle Verdon
Coach and Facilitator
Tips to be ready for coaching
My clients have taught me a lot about what it takes to make a successful coaching relationship. These nine questions, extra tips, and prompts come from that personal experience. I hope they serve you well.
I can be relied upon to be on time for all calls and appointments.
This is number one on the list because it seems to be a sign of commitment to the coaching process. I have noticed that clients who are on time and don’t miss appointments or calls tend to get the most out of the coaching process. TIPS:
When you sign up for coaching, decide that you will be on time for all coaching sessions. Make the commitment to yourself and your coach.
Schedule a free space of 10 to 15 minutes before each coaching session to allow for timing issues.
Schedule each call/appointment for a time of day when you’re least likely to be late or have the most control over your own time.
Put a 15-minute task in your calendar 24 hours beforehand so you can prepare for the call in advance.
I am ready to create space for the coaching process
Much of the coaching work takes place between coaching sessions. So, mental space needs to be made for this work to happen. This also needs actual time in the agenda.
Tips to help make this happen:
Review all the things that you are feeling guilty about, things you haven’t done, but should have (dentist, change the tires on the car for winter or summer, doing the taxes, paying bills, etc.), and remove as many as you can before the coaching. This can help create mental space.
Be ready to make time in your week for any possible work you want to do between coaching sessions.
I am ready to take concrete actions towards my goals
Certain clients come to coaching with excellent intentions. They quickly identify what they want to work on and even come up with ideas to move forward. Somehow, however, no progress is made between coaching sessions. The client wants to talk about the issue with the coach, but is not yet ready, to take action. Talking (and being listened to) can be very beneficial so this can be worth a lot to clients. However, it is good to be as clear as possible in your head – am I ready to move to actions or is my intention more to explore possibilities?Tips:
Be clear with yourself
Be clear with your coach. Sometimes, this clarity is established as you work with the coach – and that is ok, as long as you both discuss it.
Two great questions to ask are:
(1)On a scale of 1-10, how ready am I to take action? (1= No way I am going to take this action, 10 = I am going to start right away, and I can see how to do it) (2)What is one thing I could do to help me move closer to a 10?
Working with a coach requires trust on both sides. Hopefully, your coach will keep his or her word. If they don’t, you quickly lose trust, and you need to find another coach! Part of a coach’s role is to help you be accountable regarding what you decide to do, and together you can work on a process that will have the best results for you. This can be a valuable area to work on with your coach. Many of us are good at keeping our word at work but do less well in other domains. Some questions to ask yourself are:(1)How well do I keep my word at work? (2)How well do I keep my word with family and friends? (3)How well do I keep my word to myself? (4)What area would help me most to improve (5)How could I use a coach to support this improvement?
In all my coaching experience, I have only had one client who I feel was not intentionally truthful regularly. I should have fired that client, but instead, I succumbed to the idea that I could help them (rescuer syndrome). It was not a successful coaching experience.
For the rest of us, who are not manipulators, it can be hard to be truthful when the coaching conversation starts entering very sensitive areas. You know this is about to happen when you start to feel uncomfortable and think in your head: “Oh no – I don’t want to go there!” That’s ok! Just tell your coach: “This is an area I don’t want to explore.”
There are boundaries to coaching conversations, and you as a client have a right to establish those! Of course, a lot can be learned from boundaries. They can be rich areas to explore how they help or inhibit you, but how you and your coach deal with the boundaries is up to you. Questions for you:(1)What boundaries would I like to set for this conversation? (2)How will that setting that boundary help or hinder me and the coaching process? (3)How will I tell the coach when we hit a boundary in our conversations?
I will provide feedback to the coach on how the coaching process is serving me and especially when I feel it is not helping as much as I had hoped.
This is crucial. Be upfront with your coach about how this will happen. The coaching process is there to serve you, and if it isn’t working as well as you had hoped, you need to discuss that with the coach. Most coaches will ask you questions about this during your coaching sessions so speak up!
If you are worried about how you will do this (giving feedback is not always comfortable even when you are invited to), discuss the topic with your coach when you hire them.
I am open to receiving feedback from the coach; that is non- judgmental and with my best interest at heart.
One of my biggest errors as a coach was to give a client very direct and non-judgmental feedback that I thought they were ready to hear and… they were not. Feedback is a critical part of coaching, so this is a great topic to discuss with your coach. Here are some tips on how to be ready for this important part of coaching: (1)Remember that feedback is always a gift and it is always up to you whether you use it or not. (2)Discuss with your coach how they might deliver that feedback in a way that will help you be receptive to it. (3)Remind yourself of how to accept difficult feedback: a.Take a deep breath b.Remind yourself that the person giving you this feedback has your very best interests at heart. c.Listen actively d.Ask clarifying questions, do not offer excuses e.Say thank you f.Take it away and decide if/how you will use it to help you.
I am open to seeing situations/issues from different perspectives
Seeing things from different perspectives is where clients often make the biggest discoveries and breakthroughs. And it can be a lot of fun to explore these different perspectives! It does not mean your current perspective is wrong. It simply means that for every situation there are many perspectives and that by changing perspectives for a moment, we can often find new solutions.
Some perspectives are easier to accept than others, and a willingness to explore these different views can help you get the most out of your coaching experience.
How ready are you stretch yourself and look at things from a different point of view?
Please leave any comments, suggestions or questions that you might have here:
Tips to be ready for coaching
My clients have taught me a lot about what it takes to make a successful coaching relationship. These nine questions, extra tips, and prompts come from that personal experience. I hope they serve you well.
I can be relied upon to be on time for all calls and appointments.
This is number one on the list because it seems to be a sign of commitment to the coaching process. I have noticed that clients who are on time and don’t miss appointments or calls tend to get the most out of the coaching process.
TIPS
● When you sign up for coaching, decide that you will be on time for all coaching sessions. Make the commitment to yourself and your coach.
● Schedule a free space of 10 to 15 minutes before each coaching session to allow for timing issues.
● Schedule each call/appointment for a time of day when you’re least likely to be late or have the most control over your own time.
● Put a 15-minute task in your calendar 24 hours beforehand so you can prepare for the call in advance.